“We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved.”
― C. JoyBell C.
I posted this quote on my Facebook wall a few years ago, and just ran across it today. It fits perfectly with what I was wanting to write my Thanksgiving post about: love.
This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for love in all its many forms.
“…blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us…” the quote says. Wow was that ever true of me for years and years in my relationships with guys. I was always in constant pursuit of receiving the love of a guy, and it was usually the guys who weren’t interested in loving me back.
It’s been years since I could say I was thankful for romantic love at Thanksgiving time. And even then, five years ago when I was in a relationship with someone who “loved” me, it was on the rocks. This Thanksgiving, I am so thankful for the love of my “manfriend,” as I call him. He is showing me so many things I never knew about love, and he’s showing me a love I’ve never known before. For that, I am so thankful.
“…the people who really love us, the people who matter…” Similar to how I treated romantic relationships in the past was the same way I treated friendships. Friendships shouldn’t be hard work. They shouldn’t be one-sided. The people who matter will always be there for you, they will be loyal and have your back at all times.
I’ve spent many moments of my life wondering what happened to certain friendships, especially those with my high school friends. While a group of them have remained in contact with each other and get together every time they’re in town, somehow I stopped being invited. There was no falling out or anything, it was like I just disappeared from their memories. It upset me for years, and sometimes it still stings, but instead of dwelling on it, I allow myself to be loved by the friends who choose to love me right now.
I am so beyond thankful for my friendships. I do not have what many people call a “circle” of friends, and, to be honest, that’s the way I prefer it. No disrespect to anyone who does, I’m just speaking for myself. I like fewer friendships that are of a great quality. I’d rather get coffee with a close friend than go out for drinks with 10 friends. And let me tell you, my close friends are amazing. I’ve never been more thankful for those who stand by my side, near and far.
“…the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets…” Who knew that those words could apply to family? I love each and every person in my family, but that love isn’t always returned. However, those who want my love, those who cherish it, who recognize it, who “beg in the streets” for it, they are the ones I am going to focus on. You can’t make someone love you, and that includes family members.
I am thankful for the love of my family. Family is never perfect, but I couldn’t be more thankful for the people I’ve been blessed with.
My “manfriend” and I might not last long enough to get married. A good friend of mine might do something spiteful. A family member might decide to disown the rest of us. But God, and His love, are perfect. There is absolutely nothing that will change God’s love for me.
So even if God’s love was the only love I had, I would have enough. God’s love is all I need. It’s all anyone needs. It’s what keeps me going when the love, or absence of love, from guys, friends, or family members, isn’t cutting it. My heart is satisfied and thankful for the love of my Savior.
This Thanksgiving, I encourage you to let yourself be loved. If there are people who refuse to love you, it’s OK to love them back, but focus your attention and time on those who love you with open arms. Stop beating yourself up for whatever reasons certain people have for not loving you back.
“It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time to let ourselves be loved.”
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I am thankful for each and every one of you! God bless!