The “disease” people just don’t understand…

Hello. My name is Natalie. I suffer from a disease known as “Singleitis.” I have had Singleitis for 32 years. While most people are rid of the disease at this point, I still carry it with me. I am single.

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“Singleitis” is a serious disease that many people suffer from and others find confusing.

People view single women at my age in one of two ways: the spinster or the party girl.

The spinster’s only social interaction is with people at work, anyone she talks to in line at RedBox, and her cats: Taylor, Alanis and Adele. Hobbies include knitting, reading the classics, crossword puzzles, and playing Jewel Quest until the wee hours of the morning. It’s really no wonder why she’s single.

If a single woman isn’t a spinster, everyone sees her as a party girl. The party girl just wants to have a good time. Her social interaction is with anyone at the bar, anyone on the dance floor, and any guy she brings home with her. She is a drunk who wears little to no clothing even in the dead of winter. It’s really no wonder why she’s single.

So that’s it. If you’re a single woman in your 30’s, you must be one of these two things, right? You’re either a loser with no social skills and that’s why you’re single, or you have too many social skills and are a partier, and that’s why your single.

I see these stereotypes made of single women all the time! Sure there are spinsters and party girls out there, but not all of us fall into one of those categories.

When I was a high school English teacher, if my students asked me what I did over the weekend and I said anything along the lines of, “Met up with some friends for dinner, we went bowling and saw a movie,” they would give me a blank stare, and someone would say to me, “You do stuff?” To which I would respond, “Yeah…. do you think I sit at home and knit on the weekends?” They would all nod in agreement.

On the flip side, when I mention wanting to live in a bigger city because there’s more to do there, some people in my life hear, “I want to live in a big city so I can get drunk and party and make poor decisions that will keep me single for an eternity.”

I am not a spinster, and although I had my fair share of party-girl years, I am not a party girl. I am single, and contraire to popular belief, that doesn’t mean I have a terrible disease. So why do so many people treat it that way?

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Strapless dresses?! Martinis?! Single girls?! Clearly Kim and I are about to be drunk sluts in downtown Indy. (Note: Not the case at all!)

If you don’t know me and dont’ know my life, don’t make assumptions. If I post a picture on Facebook and I’m holding a glass of wine, don’t assume it’s my fifth glass. If I put up a new blog post, don’t assume I sat at home all weekend by myself writing it. If I am tagged at a dance club in town, don’t assume I’m wasted and going home with a guy. Maybe me and my girls just wanted to dance!

I know we all make assumptions, but let up on the single people a little bit. It’s not easy out here. And if you think it is easy for a single gal in her 30’s to find a man in Fort Wayne, Indiana… you find some guys and send them my way. I know of a few great girls who are looking, and would love to get rid of their disease! 😉

My list is better…

Askmen.com released its list of “99 Most Desireable Women.” The ladies are as follows:

1. Jennifer Lawrence
2. Mila Kunis
3. Kate Upton
4. Rihanna
5. Emma Stone
6. Miranda Kerr
7. Kristen Stewart
8. Jessica Gomes
9. Jessica Pare
10. Michelle Jenneke

There are three women on the list I’ve never even heard of. And seeing Rihanna and Kristen Stewart on the list just makes me sick to my stomach. Ugh!

I decided to make my own list. No, I’m not playing for the other team now. I still love the Channing Tatums and Denzel Washingtons of the world, but we all know that women can find other women attractive and it not be “weird.”

Here’s MY list of the most beautiful and desirable women:

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1. Blake Lively – My girl crush. I love everything about Blake Lively. When I found out that she and Ryan  Reynolds got married, my first thought was, “He’s so lucky.” No seriously. Blake is physically everything I want to be, and I think she is hands down the most beautiful woman on the planet.

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2. Paula Patton – Why don’t more guys love her? She’s so stunning and seems very classy to me, and I think she’s amazing.

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3. Jennifer Aniston – Duh. Near perfection. She’s in her 40’s and looks better than most women I know in their 20’s.

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4. Kim Kardashian – Say what you want about her otherwise, but when it comes to looks, Kim is one of the most strikingly beautiful women to ever walk the earth. She looks so exotic, and as a blonde-haired, blue-eyed white girl, I am super jealous!

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5. Halle Berry – Who else can have a rockin’ body at that age, super short hair, and still be drop-dead gorgeous?

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6. Natalie Portman – Aside from Black Swan, she always looks gorgeous.

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7. Emily Maynard -My guilty pleasure: The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Emily is so insanely beautiful that it makes me sick. She seemed down-to-earth on her season of The Bachelorette, but tabloids say she’s awful. Either way, she’s super pretty.

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8. Minka Kelly – I’m envious of anyone with brown eyes. Hers are lovely.

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9. Jessica Alba – Who doesn’t love Jessica Alba? My favorite movie of hers is Honey. And I love the direction her life has taken with her company “Honest.” Beautiful girl with a good heart.

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10. Audrey Hepburn – I was going to keep this list to living celebrities only, but I can’t help but have Audrey on the list. Class. Sophistication. And she spent the final years of her life helping others around the world through UNICEF. What’s more beautiful than that?